Detachment

The art of detachment is a delicate balance. Understandably, a difficult practice since we are very physical human beings - mainly creatures of habit. To be detached can mean many things, right? It matters what we are seeking detachment from! A situation, a person, a lifestyle.. Many of us grow up learning most things in a state of dependence. Unknowingly and lovingly, many parents create these environments that breed dependency. Dependency creates attachment - the idea that one needs someone or something to thrive. In turn, attachment, (in many ways), generates dependency and often codependency - the idea that one cannot survive without the other, (be it a person, place or thing). Of course as children we are dependent! That's a given! What I am saying is; some loving parents forget to, "teach a man to fish," so to speak! It's important for children to learn their own ways to embody an independent state of being - to be given the tools necessary to observe and use discernment as well as the development of their independence! As adults, this becomes detrimental for us to flourish in emotional stability. The art of detachment creates space for balance when practiced with conscience. It strips our lives of the cage we unintentionally build around our freedom. Being attached to outcomes can create huge resistance in every avenue of our existence! You see, when we are detached, we are not alone and without. We are revived, anew, independent, and connected without condition! We strip away all conditional power when we can be connected without "tether." It is my experience that attachment is often in direct correlation to unhealed trauma. Many make the "mistake" of filling a void through an attachment that they have formed with someone or something. Though, it is my belief that there are no mistakes. Attach if you must, because we all learn one way or another! Many would argue with the notion of no mistakes, but I have dug many years into my spirituality to have formed this firm perspective. I believe that we have the freedom to CHOOSE! To either be attached OR detached and and still connected. This is in relation to holding ourselves accountable. We are accountable for the decisions we make, are we not? If the answer is no, then there is more work to do! There is always more work to do anyway, don't worry! That's why we're here! As far as the incorporation of detachment being a main course of action, it's important to form an understanding of just what that means! Here is an example; we cross paths with many people in our lifetimes. We meet ones who bring out the best in us and some that reveal uncharacteristic behaviors! Pay attention to each! We are detached when we recognize all things as an experience. A person that brings out the best in us creates a scenario where it's easy to want to become attached! Don't get me wrong, attachment can be beautiful and fulfilling with ones who are aligned. However, it is an objective truth that in life, nothing is permanent - because this physical life itself is not permanent! That is why detachment is so powerful! It is the understanding that all we have is this very moment, NOW - and that it is fleeting! The most undeniable path to enjoying anything or anyone is to enjoy it NOW while it is and to do so without expectation!! This way IF or when things change, we have absorbed every detail that we could from any single experience! Change happens. It is inevitable. Sometimes a graceful evolution, sometimes an abrupt demise. The only control we truly have is our mindset and eventually how we react and adapt while we are "alive." If we are thoughtfully connected and in a state of detachment, transitions are a lot easier no matter which way our paths lead. To remain detached is a consistent practice. It can be difficult in beautiful situations and also difficult in ugly situations. It is not bias! It just depends on ones perspective and openminded abilities! As humans, we are wired by society at a young age to form expectations and behave accordingly, but what most are missing is that it creates an invisible trap for our very own evolution! To be detached is to be free, quite literally. Master the art of detachment, as much as you can. Let life flow as intended and enjoy the ride - as it will be the best feeling you ever experience! To be present, connected, and in love with life - yet detached from any specific outcome! Be detached and stay connected - afterall - you don't really have a choice in this regard! You are consequently connected whether you allow yourself to enjoy it or not! My complimentary advice; Enjoy it!!