Love

What does the word Love mean to you? For me, it is a way of being. Truly. Unconditionally. To be alive is to be Love!! Waking up and romanticizing every detail of your day - is Love. Being aware of your surroundings and appreciating the delicate balance of all that is - is Love. Love is so much more than the word itself. It's more than a meaningful phrase used to assure another. Love is a verb! Every action and decision we make can be made within and would reflect without! However, most peoples definition isn't quite as broad. It seems that, all too often, people say that they Love. But wait, is it without condition? Most would say yes, yet they are extremely conditional. It's obviously not intentional, but most have acquired this standard of expectations in terms of what it means to love or be loved. Lets disect that a little bit. I have been in spaces where people have claimed to love another without condition while also having expectations of how they should behave. Sure, expectations and conditions are not exactly the same, but aren't they to some degree?? If a person is not behaving the way someone who loves them prefers, they should ask themselves - am I giving that person space to be authentically themselves - or am I combatting their way of being in an effort to force conformity to prove their love? This could pertain to spouse, children, friends or family! When one specifies someone's actions as a means of not loving them enough to act accordingly, it is merely conditional. How one chooses to be is not a reflection of the love they have for another, but more of a reflection of how they love themselves. Would you say that a person should be damned for doing what feels best for them or simply doing what they feel inspired to do in the moment? Should someone withhold love from themselves to prove their love for another? Interestingly enough, many people would unintentionally agree, yes! But why? Why is anyone holding someone else responsible for the Love that they feel? I believe that only when we Love ourselves unconditionally can we Love another the same. If we are seeking to feel Love from another without first Loving ourselves, that will be evident in our receptivity to anyones actions. A harmless misunderstanding will feel more detrimental to one who is only seeking Love from an outside source, whereas someone whom is engaged in their Loving nature would receive anothers actions much more delicately. There are no flawless humans. Accepting differences and acknowledging that we are not all the same in many ways is pertinent! When any person you love is acting on their excitement, but it doesn't line up with yours - are you upset? Are you adoring? Your emotions will tell you all that you need to know. Were there prior agreements established or are there unstated expectations? It doesn't matter how long anyone has been in another persons life, clear communication is important. Perception is equally important. We cannot expect another person to blindly understand ourselves. Don't fall into the trap of, "they should know by now." People are everchanging. Not many remain stagnant in their ways. Open communication and understanding of these two combined create a safe space for anyone involved. Another aspect of the topic would beg to argue that humans act a certain way when they Love. Sure! They do. They become increasingly aware of another. They more often become considerate of another, but the question remains - is it inspired action or is it a result of feeling pressure to prove themselves to the person that they Love? This is where a state of condition becomes understood! Once we recognize this pattern of action/reaction, it becomes apparent what we are responding to and from. Love - unconditional or conditional? Of course, there are many instances when we come across a well balanced loving relationship. Joyful. Forgiving. Kind. A vibrational match! When two people come together in the name of Love and are inspired by each other, everything flows. Expectations aren't formed in silence and revealed in frustration. The two create together. They create a sanctuary. They create agreements. Agreements that which ensure that the two are within mutual understanding of each other. Remaining a vibrational match through any condition because they are unconditional! The Love we experience is a profound reflection of the Love we harbor within. Only once we release the most natural version of ourselves, in courage, will we attract that very match that we desire in another. Though Love is much more than a component of desire - desire itself cannot thrive without Love in some form. It is not meant to be a battlefield. Only passion will bring about conflict in the heat of a misunderstanding whence Love hast grasp another. Necessary, it is not! Love is who we are, what we are, what we are created in and how we create furthermore!! Love, Be Love and Be Loved.